This post over at Transgression is simply amazing.
Need some proof before you click? Check out an excerpt:
If you hate, dislike, or mistrust trans women, you’re misogynistic. Trans women are included in the big ol’ group known as women. Want proof? Well look at their name, silly. We call ‘em trans women, not trans chia pets, not trans beach towels, not trans schmeggeggies. Remember high school algebra? Oh hush, yes you do. Let me remind you of this lovely little mathematical rule:
If a=b and b=c, then a=c
If trans women= women and hating, disliking, or mistrusting women= misogyny then…then what? Solve for c.
Ok technically that would be trans women= misogyny but you know perfectly well what I mean and I hate that you even questioned my math.
But I know what you’re thinking. You’re thinking, “But Gus, I think trans women=/= women so therefore it’s totally not misogynistic to hate, dislike, or mistrust trans women.” And I understand that. Really, I do. But here’s the thing. Now listen carefully, my little chickadee, cuz I’m about to blow your mind.
Not only are you wrong, but even thinking that silly, silly, thing is unbelievably, incredibly, fantastically MISOGYNISTIC. And it offends me as a woman. Yes, yes it does. And here’s why.
Now, go read the whole thing!
I pretty much never do this, but whatever… go read this post about the real relationship between health & weight right now because it is intensely well researched and written!
I’ll be back with a real post later this week but, for now, that’s honestly all I have to say. Have a great Monday!
I’ve taken a tiny break from blogging because I have 15+ hours of work a week, plus 12 hours of class, and a whole day of commuting to NYC to intern with the Margaret Sanger Papers Project… very simply put there is no time for me to blog here anymore. Luckily for me (and you!) blogging is an integral part of what I am getting paid/getting credits to do this semester! I’ll continue to cross-post anything I write for the Ramapo College Women’s Center Blog here. Also, feel free to check out the posts that I’ve started writing with the Margaret Sanger Papers Project… they’re a very different style because my writing in the past has not been nearly as academic/history based, but I am loving the chance to expand and adapt to a different style of blogging!
On a completley unrelated note, I want to direct you to read a particular post at Angry Feminist Doc in which the author lists out all of the ridiculous ways that women are blamed for their own sexual assaults. This is a list I have actually started myself many times, and simply not been able to finish due to time/emotions/etc. Her’s is way more detailed than my half-finished drafts anyways!
“Sometimes” does not give rape culture enough credit. “Sometimes” underestimates the ways in which rape culture diminishes sexual assaults and holds survivors responsible for them. They were drinking
, they don’t get someone to “watch them”
, they “[sit] on people’s laps”
, they are crazy and on anti-psychotic drugs
, they walk home alone at nigh
t, they walk home alone in the afternoon
, they leave alone and may even announce that they are leaving alone
, they wear skinny jeans
, they wear bikinis
, they’re “scantily-clad”
, they are seductive and look like adults
, they consent to other forms of sexual activity
, they initially consented to this sexual activity
, they have fantasies about group sex
, they are prison inmates
, they are married to their rapist’s brother
, they regularly frequent the location at which they are later raped
, they “failed to exercise due care for [their] own safety and the safety of [their] children and proper use of [their] senses and facilities
“, they are sex workers
, they may “visit footballers’ hotel rooms late at night
“, they do not behave like “virtuous women
“, they do not “dress properly
“, they are “not really women”
, they reported their rape and it didn’t result in convictions
, they shoplift
, they form a legally binding “sexual partnership”
, they had not formed
a legally binding sexual partnership, they fight back
, they don’t fight bac
k, they are “known for sleeping around, smoking weed, throwing wild parties, stealing liquor from her parents, getting drunk, giving liquor to neighborhood teens, participating in orgies, performing oral sex, engaging in group sex, gay sex, public sex and cyber sex
“, they were DRUNKWHORESLUTTHEYDESERVEDIT
I have a million things I want to write, as soon as I find the energy so I hope you’ll keep checking back!
[Sorry for the late post - I'm having computer issues, but everything should be better by the end of this week!]
It was hard not to post this first link up right away because it was just that good. The Secret Life of My Ugly Self is a post from Eat the Damn Cake that reminds me of a more eloquent version of my Reclaiming Ugly! post, so of course I love it. Here’s a short bit of it but really, what are you waiting for? Just go read the whole post…
But back to my radical thought. For some reason, and for the first time, I believe, in my life, I didn’t either curl up in the whale or try to tell myself that I was in fact beautiful, or at least decently good looking, and I was just being ridiculous, and I needed to get over myself and be practical and stop whining. I didn’t try to un-roast, or recall the boys who have raved about my beauty. I took a completely different approach. I said to myself, “Alright. Let’s say you are ugly. Let’s just go with that for a minute. You’re ugly. You’re irredeemably unattractive. No amount of expensive shampoos or designer clothes or even surgery will improve your appearance significantly. Now what?”
This next post from Lifehacker called The Science Behind “Having a Bad Day” is really good, but it also makes me sad because I have a post just like this about bad days & self-fulfilling prophesies in my drafts queue that has been sitting half-finished for weeks now. Oh well, theirs is much more thorough!